Any Room 4 Me?

What's one of the most intimidating situations for a black man who's by himself? (and this has nothing to do with police) Being in a room full of opinionated, independant, educated black women. In a room full of black women, the topic of black men is inevitable. It's not like it's a planned discussion...they just come up because there is always some grievance a woman wants to hash over. And if it's not expressed in conversation, you read about it. I've come across blogs, papers, essays, forums, or whatever you can write on... and I've witnessed many a female inquire about "why do men do this, and why do men do that?" Well ladies... I think I have a scintilla of an answer.... Can you say EGO?

Yes that's right... the male ego. Big as fuck but fragile as hell (ain't that some shit?) They got all this ego.... but let someone challenge it or crush it, they ready to whoop ass and soothe their ego later. It's actually quite amusing and rather pitiful. I remember reading this girl's blog and she asked an array of questions, but the one that stuck out to me was one that I've talked about with my friends not to long ago. She asked " why do black men call women bitches after they reject their advances?" Well now you kno the answer... his ego was shitted on (HAHAHAHAHAHA! oh men... ur so effete). He's trying to deface you like you defaced him...but little does he know his words fall on stalwart ears. Yea... hearing that may rattle you a little but then you reflect and realize you're not a bitch... there are many aspects of your life that validate the fact that you're not one. There are countless examples of uncalled for behavior but i'm only going to express one more popular situation (I could be here all day talkin bout these niggas).

I think most if not all women have gone through this next one (if you haven't... just wait, it'll happen eventually); when a man asks you to have sex with him (or suggests it some other way) and you decline. Oh boy... you better watch out. I feel that's like the ultimate slap in the face for them. They put in all this effort, money and time into taking you out and such, being a gentleman (maybe) and then at the end of the night expect some ass... (boy please) I really don't know why that's the expected payback... you should be satisfied that I just took time out of my day to listen to you talk about yourself (awesome date). Anyways... this happened to a friend of mine, she refused to give up the poon, and the men retaliated by doing awful things to her. It's like they'll do anything to make you feel as bad as they do...but their ego can't be hurt too bad because they back at it the next damn day, terrorizing the next chick (or you). For lack of a better word it's frustrating.
Lastly, the thing that really gets me is when men have a wife or girlfriend, come home from work and expect that wife or girlfriend to massage his ego and calm his fears from "the big bad world." I know as a wife it's part of your duty to support and be there for your husband but damn... It's not like she didn't have a rough day either (more than likely it was worse than his). She's supposed to set aside her issues to deal with his issues.... I challenge men to get some mental toughness. Rejection is a natural part of life... when it happens, it's not the end of the world. That ego has got to go or it needs to be controlled... because the way things are goin now.... My Lord....